Gay sex
Gay Sex Guide is for men thinking about having sex with another guy, whether with a random dude, gay escort, male escort, friend or somebody picked up while travelling. For plenty of straight and bi guys it starts simply as curiosity. Some try it once and never do it again, others discover they like dudes more than chicks.
Having sex with a guy once doesn't suddenly make you gay. If you spend half your life on Grindr looking for guys then maybe it is time to think about it, but one drunken experiment or one night with a male hooker doesn't decide your sexuality for you.
First time
Today the easiest place to find a guy is usually Grindr or another hook up app. The older ways still work: gay bars, gay clubs, gay saunas, gay cinemas and gay cruising areas. In big gay cities such as Amsterdam, Paris, London, Barcelona, Madrid, Bangkok and New York City there are plenty of places to meet guys.
A male escort can actually be an easier first time if you are nervous and do not want to explain yourself to some random dude from an app. Tell him straight away that you have never done it before. Gay hookers have seen nervous first-timers before and there is no point pretending you are not a first timer.
Some straight or bi guys first experiment with a trans escort, shemale or ladyboy, particularly in places such as Thailand. Whether you call that gay, bi or something else just know that nobody cares! Don't spend too much time worrying about the label before you have even tried something.
Top, bottom or vers?
A top is normally the guy doing the penetrating and a bottom is receiving. Vers guys do both.
You don't need to choose a team for life. Plenty of guys like both and some only discover what they prefer after trying it. If you meet somebody through an app, he will often ask whether you are top, bottom or vers pretty early in the chat.
Getting ready
If you plan to bottom, think about hygiene beforehand. Some guys use an anal douche, others don't. Douching isn't compulsory and going crazy with it can irritate things more than it helps. Being clean and having normal bowel habits is enough for plenty of guys.
Lube matters with anal sex, and so do condoms when having sex with strangers. Anal sex carries a relatively high risk for HIV/AIDS and some other STDs, so this isn't the best place to forget about safe sex just because the guy looks healthy.
Don't try to copy some hardcore scene you watched in gay pornography on your first night. Porn stars know what they are doing, scenes are prepared and edited, and your first time doesn't need to become an endurance competition. If something hurts, slow down or stop.
Finding a gay hooker
Gay escorts and male escorts advertise online much like female hookers. Hunqz, Boys4U, RentMen and other male escort directories have guys in many large cities. See Top 10 Best Male and Gay Escort Sites and Directories in the World.
A male hooker can be young, old, muscular, skinny, masculine, feminine, gay, bi or sometimes a straight guy making money from gay porn or escorting. Read the profile instead of assuming what the guy does.
For a first booking tell him you are new to gay sex and what you think you want to try. If you don't know whether you want to fuck or get fucked, say that too. It is much easier than turning up scared shitless and trying to act experienced.
See Also
- Gay sex | Gay | Bisexuality | Casual sex
- Hunqz | Boys4U | RentMen | Escort directory
- Anal douche | Lubricant | Condom | Safe sex
