Orgasm control
Orgasm control means controlling when or whether you or a consenting partner cums. It includes edging, delaying orgasm and denial. People use it during masturbation, partnered sex, BDSM and some escort sessions.
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Types of Orgasm Control
- Edging: Getting close to cumming, backing off, then repeating.
- Orgasm denial: Agreeing not to finish for a session or a period of time.
- Delayed orgasm: Slowing or changing stimulation to make the session last longer.
- Forced orgasm play: A BDSM term for consensually agreed play involving continued stimulation. It does not mean ignoring someone's refusal or withdrawal of consent.
Solo and Partnered Play
During a wank, you learn what takes you close and when to pause. With a partner, agreed signals such as "slow down" or "stop" help control the pace.
It can involve hands, oral sex, fucking or sex toys. There is no fixed number of pauses or minutes that works for everyone.
Domination and Submission
In BDSM, the dominant may decide when the submissive can cum. Teasing, bondage and chastity play can be involved.
The submissive might beg to blow their load, but the rules are agreed beforehand. Either person can stop the game.
Escorts and Paid Sessions
Some fetish escorts and dominatrices offer edging or denial. Arrange the duration, limits and whether you finish before booking.
A longer booking gives more time, but Long-time does not automatically include orgasm control. A standard quickie is a different request.
Safety
Pain, soreness or numbness are reasons to stop. Orgasm control does not require squeezing hard, wearing restrictive devices for long periods or pushing through discomfort.
Cock rings have separate safety limits. Denial is not a reason to leave one on for hours.
See Also
- Edging | Orgasm | Masturbation
- BDSM | Domination | Submission | Power exchange
- Chastity play | Bondage | Cock ring
- Dominatrix | Femdom | Fetish escorts
- Sex toy | Vibrator | Escort extras
- Short-time | Long-time | Quickie
- Safe sex | Condom | Stay safe
